Why in the diocesan newspaper dates voice to the prejudices about LGBT+people?

Letter by Mara Grassi with Agostino Usai, parents de La Tenda di Gionata To the director of "La Libertà", the newspaper of the diocese of Reggio Emilia

Very kind director, I am a reader of your newspaper that I have been subscribed with my husband for several years. Giuliano Romoli's article "To which human being brings gender ideology"He deeply struck me and bitter. I decided to write them for"the affirmation and testimony of the truth ", As said in the article.

Until a few years ago I would have taken all the things written by Mr. Romoli for good and I would have been outraged towards this gender mentality who wants to undermine the foundations of our society and the Church.
Then an event changed our life: the discovery of the homosexuality of the eldest of our four children. Many years of loss, suffering, silence, solitude. Then the encounter with the reality of LGBT + believers (lesbians, gay, bisexual, transsexuals, + because it is true, reality is very complex, but this is not why it must be wrong).

Not only that, thank God, we embraced our Son (a wrong religiosity had prevented us), but we started reading, indeed to study this reality that we refused without knowing and that we considered "Not normal" I therefore allow myself to underline some passages of the article that are wrong.

"Biological sex is unequivocal XX for XY females for males." It is not true, 0.5% of people are not a male or female standard. As a biologist I already knew that some people are xxy (SD. Klinefelter, 1 per 1000 D, others X0 (SD. Turner, 1 every 5000!), Other xxy or xyy, etc). And even Gonadal and genital sex can have changes.

"The term sex has been replaced with gender". It's not true, they are two different things. It is true that from the 70s, gender studies (Tender Studies) began. And this word gender (which is more frightening gender), it was used to coin this phantom gender ideology Which in reality does not exist, but it is a tactic that of demonizing what you don't know to destroy it.

Gender studies have instead allowed us to know, as Mr. Romoli rightly says, which exists a gender identity, that is, feeling or not in tune with one's biological sex e a gender role of which we women above all have made the costs.

But what I wanted to underline more strength is that it is not a mentality, We are talking about people who have the right to be themselves (see career aka in schools) and to live their lives full, without social stigmas or ecclesial closures.

In recent years I have known many parents who are accompanying their children in the very difficult path of the transition and I assure you that it is certainly not "indulge in a pretense gender identity, often due to a temporary adolescent crisis ".

Then as a middle school teacher, now retired, I am the first to tell her that the episodes of homophobia unfortunately still exist. For years a mother who know has been doing projects by Relationship education, After the son, instigated by his companions, threw himself from the school window. The trees of the garden prevented him from dying, but how can we wait for such facts to happen?

As for "demential practices as weddings between people of the same sex ", io come mamma mi auguro che mio figlio (gay) possa trovare una persona con cui condividere la vita, perché come scrive il teologo Aristide Fumagalli, non solo è un amore possibile quello tra persone dello stesso sesso, ma può avere tutte le caratteristiche di fedeltà, dono reciproco, cura dell’altro, dell’amore cristiano.

Volevo terminare riportando le parole che mi ha detto Papa Francesco quando gli ho consegnato il libro “Genitori fortunati. Vivere da credenti il coming out dei figli” (Effatà editrice), "Sono tutti figli di Dio e Dio li ama così come sono".

Auspicando di aver fatto con questa lettera un servizio alla verità, la saluto cordialmente.