Looking for homosexual priests in chats populated by solitudes

An entire month spent chatting. At different times and with different names. With a single indication in the profile: “Looking for a don”. The first thing you learn on online dating sites is that there is no time to waste.
Therefore, it is better to immediately clarify what you are looking for: “170×67 brown non-hairy male juvenile”. Or: “165×80, curly brunette, very hairy, masculine and cute”. And, in this case, that he is also a priest.

Se è vero, poi, che tutte le chat si assomigliano, per quelle gay c’è solo l’imbarazzo della scelta: registrarsi è semplicissimo. Nessun controllo, ad esempio, sull’età dell’utente che, in teoria, potrebbe accedere ogni volta con un nick diverso.

There are Mirc, the gay.it chat, 77chat.com, but also sites like bearwww.com, gayromeo.com, gaydar.it: some also require a photo but generally you just need to enter a few essential data and an indication of what you are looking for and how you want it. Sex, love, friendship, couple exchanges: the goal is almost always to meet, in reality or via web cam. Priests are a highly sought-after category. Like the military. “The charm of the uniform”, one might say.

One of the many chat rooms that you can enter on 77chat.com is dedicated to them. Here, on the homepage, there is a perfunctory ban on pedophilia and sexual practices with minors. Our themed room is called “Priests and Friends”. The priests' nicknames are quite obvious: Don cerca maturi, d_off, don umbro, don, don giu, don marco, don40, padre Pio and many others. “Friends” indicate their preferences in the profile. "Where are you? How old are you? What are you like?”. It's a script already written: just wait a few minutes and the first dialogue windows open one after the other.

Le domande sono sempre quelle e conviene rispondere alla svelta per passare al secondo “blocco” – “sei sposato? single? gay? bisex?” – superato il quale avviene il (fortunato) passaggio a un luogo più sicuro: msn e/o telefono, preludio dell’incontro.

We stopped first, simply disappearing and reappearing in chat with a different nickname: another lap, another race. A world, that of "adult" chats, more normal and ordinary than you might think. In reality, a piece of our own world, incredibly populated by loneliness, repressed desires, feelings of guilt. Divided lives. Which, as the moral theologian Giannino Piana observes (the interview is on page 8 of l'Unità), are "dramatically marked by a sort of laceration", in the perpetual "search for a model too high to be reached".

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